‘Everything has changed’: woman separated from husband in KL when borders close shares heartbreak

The plan was to meet every weekend: he would come here for three weekends and I would fly back to KL on the last weekend of each month.

It was difficult for me because I relied a lot on my husband to help me in our partnership. During the weekends we spent together, he cooked, prepared meals and helped with household chores.

We had a running joke that we weren’t married yet.

Fortunately, very few people have asked us when we are going to have children. They knew our situation, so we didn’t have that pressure.

But it did help that we had conversations about “having children” every now and then, having a general idea that we might want to have a child. We also talked about adoption, so being in tune with these issues made conversations easier and more enjoyable.


We continued to meet every weekend of september 2017 to March 2020. Even when COVID-19 started in January of last year, we were able to stick to our arrangement.

But it was only when lockdown occurred in both countries, which prevented visitors from crossing borders, that we felt the effects of the pandemic.

Everything changed.

When Malaysian Prime Minister Muhyiddin Yassin announced on March 16 that the Movement Control Order (MCO) was in place, my husband and I had only one day to decide whether one of us should pass.

It was an unprecedented time and there was very little information to help us make a decision.

I told Seik Yeu he just needed to get to Singapore, although I wasn’t sure when he could return to KL. Meanwhile, flights had already stopped but the land border was still open.

We panicked so much that my husband arrived in Singapore from KL just before the midnight deadline on March 17th at the Causeway.

He stayed in Singapore for a month and a half, although he was very anxious throughout the trip as he had to leave things unattended during this time.

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